Fear
What is fear? Fear is feeling unsure about what you are doing. Fear is having feelings and emotions you can't rationalise. Fear is being vulnerable knowing it's going to hurt.
The other day I met someone with a tattoo in his neck which said "yes fear". He explained me that people typically say "no fear" like there's nothing to be afraid of, you should block out fear, but for him, he felt we need to look at fear in a different way. To say yes to fear is to embrace fear.
Alan Watts says something similar "It seems that if I am afraid, then I am "stuck" with fear. But in fact I am chained to the fear only so long as I am trying to get away from it. On the other hand, when I do not try to get away I discover that there is is nothing "stuck" or fixed about the reality of the moment. When I am aware of this feeling without naming it, without calling it "fear," "bad," "negative," etc., it changes instantly into something else, and loves moves freely ahead. The feeling no longer perpetuates itself by creating the feeler behind it.
Your relationship with fear might not be an easy one. Some days you are a little braver than other days, that's ok. First step might be to be aware of what's your fear. To write it down helps. Then you might be able to go near it and finally, you might be brave enough to say yes to it. When you do, you realise that "behind fear is nothing" (Jamie Foxx).
Love
What is love? Love is losing yourself in a single moment of happiness. Love is holding someone's hand and holding it tightly. Love is doing something and forgetting about the time.
Love is creation. Everything starts with Love. You love your partner, your family, your job, your team, your music, your pub, your food, your game of cards, whatever it is, where ever there is love that is where all the good stuff happens. Love can feel powerful when you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable, so that makes them "fear and love" intrinsically linked.
Alan Watts: "The life we live is a contradiction and a conflict. Because consciousness must involve both pleasure and pain, to strive for pleasure to the exclusion of pain is, in effect, to strive for the loss of consciousness. Because such a loss is in principle the same as death, this means that more we struggle for life (as pleasure), the more we are actually killing what we love."
You might be dating lots of people but not allowing them to get close to your heart, for whatever reason. Because you might have other priorities, personal traumas or just some trust issues. What happens then is that by not allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you cannot experience love. Because one cannot exist without the other.
I love this what Anaïs Nin says: "Where the myth fails, human love begins. Then we love a human being. Not our dream, a human being with flaws." When our idea of what a partner should be like, and we start to see the other person as a person, then we start to love and connect.